I think the most important thing a man needs to know is who he is. Cancer redefined my life. Being a survivor continues to do so.
In the blur of the last 3 years I continuously slip back into old habits: worry, stress, doubt. I then overcompensate: brag, boast, "act as if". One who is at peace with himself typically doesn't have to play that game; he merely acknowledges any negative presence and continues.
With that in mind, it has become clear to me that I have not saved enough time for reflection to stay grounded, to keep in touch with what matters, to know that ever changing sense of self. Last night I couldn't fall asleep, as too many of those negative thoughts were in my mind. So, I got out of bed, lit a candle and sat in its flickering light. Thinking about my life, I sat and mulled over what is important, what is appropriate and what is the priority.
The last day has been an incredible reflection for me, and I encourage everyone to do the same. Turn off everything from time to time. Tune in to yourself. It is so crucial to really know where are and where you should be. Don't let the important things in your life expire. Hold on to their memory and live with it everyday.
Be well. Do good
Brian
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